
I’ve had a good deal of turmoil inside me for quite some time now over two different issues. The larger issue of the two is a daily (some days many times throughout the day) internal debate I’ve been struggling with since the death of my oldest son: whether to stay here in South Beach or leave. And where would I go? There are only two places that I could go: 1) to the town where my youngest son still lives or 2) a land far, far away where he would visit and maybe one day stay with me (or stay close to me).
I am not going to get into the details because right now it is, believe it or not, too personal. I hope that one day I can write about it openly. I can tell you that it kills me every day that I am not with him. I hate it. Today, and right now, this is the most logical place for me to be, all things considered (which I have definitely considered). I only want to see him more than I do. It’s going to be fine. I love Zach, he loves me, and I will love him dearly until the day I die.
The other near-daily issue I’ve struggled with is whether or not to quit photography altogether. I stopped taking photos on a regular basis in the fall of 2010. Out of some feeling that I owed people more than what I was publishing, I even wrote about slowing down in a post back in late January. Maybe eventually there were a lot of reasons why I slowed, but one particular incident last fall left such a horrible taste in my mouth that I didn’t want to take photos for a long time. I tried, but I couldn’t. And I continued to try. And I couldn’t.
I’ve told a few people what happened and they all shake their head in dismay, saying it’s a shame. That I can’t or shouldn’t quit. My old friend Mark of Wander2Wonder was the first friend to listen to my misadventure back in the day; it happened right around the time that he and I were both orbiting the hostel. (Coincidentally, I ran into Mark a couple of nights ago after not seeing him for months despite the fact that he has lived, for the most part, exactly one block away.) I mentioned to him that I was finally getting over the incident; that I was beginning to come out of my shell. So I’d like to share this story and perhaps in doing so, drive the final nail in this coffin of negativity.
What happened
Last fall, late in the afternoon, I went to the beach. As always, I walked there with a small bag which held my towel, cigarettes, and eventually my camera which would always be strapped around my wrist until I hit the boardwalk before getting to the sand. The beach was fairly desolate. Between the lifeguard shacks where I sat (closer to one than the other), perhaps 25 people sat in the afternoon sun. After a quick dip in the water, I went back to my spot and while I sat there smoking a cigarette, I noticed something unusual with the seagulls. They were flying in large groups from south to north very low to the ground near the water’s edge. It wasn’t magnificent, but it was odd to see them flying like this. Something about the way they were flying was… different. And it was fairly consistent.
It would make great video, I knew. I pulled out my camera and my gorilla-pod and walked to the water’s edge. I adjusted the settings, set the camera on the mini-tripod, and waited until I saw a flock coming. When they did, I walked back to the towel where I was sitting and watched. After a few failed attempts of getting good video (each time, the seagulls seemed to bail early or fly off to one side or the other), I gave up on the notion, though watched with interest when they would fly past again.
At some point during my little exercise, a young woman came and sat directly south of me. Maybe 15-20 feet away. Typical South Beach girl. Straight hair. Thin. Nothing distinguishing.
Having given up on getting video, I was sitting on my towel, smoking. Watching the waves. Looking at those birds. And then it happened. I glanced over and a massive… I mean MASSIVE… flock of birds were heading north. And exactly from my vantage point, they were flying toward me with the young woman laying on the beach beneath them. It was a scene from The Birds. Only in South Beach.
There was no choice to be made. It was an epic, award-winning type of shot. And it was happening at that moment. I quickly grabbed the camera, adjust zoom and focused on the birds, the young woman’s body perfectly framing the bottom portion of the photo. No head. Knees to shoulders. A sea of black and white flapping wings above a tanned body on the beach. Unreal. I took a second shot, focus on the bikini-clad body, the birds a swarming mass behind it.
And with the second click of the camera, I hear it. I hear her yelling at me. I’ve never forgotten what she said, the names she called me.
“No, I’m a photographer,” I tried to say in defense. I apologize, not intending to offend or upset her. I felt badly for using her for a photo. Had it been a friend, I would’ve yelled, “Don’t move!” But it wasn’t. It was a moment in time right then that wouldn’t be repeated.
It didn’t matter. I took a photo with this stranger in it. She did not approve.
She picked up her stuff and stormed past me to the lifeguard station, yelling at me the entire time. The few people on the beach were watching this scene unfold, looking at her and looking at me. I felt disgusted. I simply sat there. I smoked a cigarette. And after she left and had stopped yelling at me, I just sat.
A few moments afterward, another young woman came to the beach and sat almost directly in front of where the other woman had been sitting. And then came the lifeguard on his ATV.
He drove by me, slowing on the approach, and looked around me (clearly in search of my camera, which was in my bag by this point). He drove past and down the beach a bit. He circled back and then stopped at the young woman who had just arrived. I couldn’t hear the conversation, but I didn’t need to. He pointed at me. And then they laughed.
“Oh hell no. This isn’t going to happen,” I say to myself.
He began to drive back to the lifeguard house and when he got in front of me, I flagged him down.
I asked him if he was looking for the guy taking photos. He said he was. I told him that I was the one taking photos and I tried to explain about the birds and asked him to please apologize to the girl for upsetting her so, despite that I had already tried. That I didn’t mean to offend her.
He said he knew the laws and that I was “within my rights, man” but that she was a personal friend of his.
I was even more disgusted.
In his mind, I was just another creep on the beach to him taking some perv shot.
He left. I sat there for a couple more minutes, finished my cigarette, and left the beach.
Post-incident
That entire episode made me not want to take another photo. I spent months thinking about street photography, wanting to take photos, but being terrified to do so for fear that that I might have to endure something similar to that. That perhaps everyone would yell at me. I lost confidence in my ability to simply photograph people.
As for the girl in the photo, I couldn’t say whether I’ve seen her again or not. I couldn’t pick her out of a lineup. She was entirely forgettable, though her words and actions certainly weren’t. Same with the lifeguard.
As for the photos themselves… I deleted them before my feet left the sand that day. I wiped the entire card. I wanted no memory of that day. You can see how well that worked out, given that it’s over six months later. But it hasn’t been an issue that I’ve been able to easily resolve. It’s raised questions and doubt in my mind.
If you believe that for a moment that I feel I was clearly in the right, you would be mistaken. Legally, of course I was in the right. But law isn’t the issue here. The moral and ethical dilemma of that moment is the trouble. I saw a moment and I took the shot. I used someone for a photo. But that’s something I’ve always done. So then… what? Was every photo I ever took wrong? No, that can’t be the case. I’ve struggled with street photography. But one thing I know is my own mind. And I have known my intentions.
I’ve never been the perv on the beach with the camera. You can look through my entire collection of photos and you’ll note that shooting individuals on the beach isn’t something I do a lot of. I try not to invade the space of others. I capture moments or scenes. I don’t typically shoot simply hot bodies on the beach, though there is certainly an abundance.
What’s unfortunate about this is that if had I been a woman taking the photo, I doubt that any of this would’ve happened. The girl may have raised an eyebrow and maybe even ASKED what I was doing, but that wasn’t the case. Instead, I am a man. And I simply got treated like some sexual deviant and degenerate.
So this is what did it. This is what screwed up my world. That one moment. Now? Now it’s getting better. And Lush, the bar, that I’ve been frequenting lately has played a huge part in getting me back to photography. It has afforded me the opportunity to shoot people in a relatively open environment. It’s helped me mentally get back on track. I’ve been grateful for that.
Another business downtown in Brickell will be hanging some art of mine on their walls in the not-too-distant future (street photography, not model photography). I am slowly making my way back. I’m looking forward to the day when I will simply take sunny day photos to my heart’s content again. I’m not ready yet. But I’m close.